Start Asking Questions

Dear Miss U,
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while. The first year we didn’t really FaceTime that much, mostly because he was busy with work and college and I felt like he didn’t have time for me. Four years have gone by and nothing’s changed. I have been loyal and faithful. He has come and gone. The only thing we actually talked about is having kids together, getting dogs, and living together. My real question is: with being with someone for more than 4 years, with no ring and being completely clueless about my love for him, am I wasting my time? Should I end this relationship for someone who’s willing to commit? [read more]

Of Friends & Futures

Dear Miss U,
This is my first LDR and my girlfriend lives 3,000 miles away. I am curious to your insight on allowing my girlfriend to hang out with a previous “friend with benefits.” I don’t know their full story, but her profession deals with pro-athletes, and he’s one of them. They had been hooking up just prior to our meeting but then we became head over heels for each other and began the relationship. She claims they are now just friends and that she intends to hang out with him again (outside of work responsibilities) and to trust her. However, I can’t come to terms with this “friendship.” And my gut wrenches thinking about it… [read more]


Dear Miss You,
…He has only one flaw: he’s very self-conscious and I always have a hard time making him Skype with me or send me pictures. He could send me pictures of everything and everyone around him but himself. For some reason, he has always been afraid I would leave him because he’s not “handsome enough” for me. I must admit he’s not very handsome, but he is very good looking. And besides, I love him, there’s no one else in the world I would rather be with… [read more]

Being a Support Person

Dear Miss U,
I’ve been in a pretty solid LDR with someone for about 1.5 months, and I couldn’t be happier. We have a lot in common and we’ve also been intimate on a few occasions when he visited me at my university. The only thing is, (besides living an hour from my university and 3+ hours from my hometown) he has very poor self-esteem. I basically tell him he is perfect, sweet and amazing all the time. Recently, when he got down on himself, he said, “Truthfully, nothing will probably happen between us because I’m a scumbag loser who won’t get a career in anything.” [read more]

Sad Songs Say So Much

Dear Miss U,
I recently lost my dad in the summer and went through a divorce. I met this man who was the most amazing man ever but he lives 1,800 miles away. We have been having a long distance relationship and every time I leave I feel so sad. How long should we wait before thinking about the future? I currently live with my mother but I don’t know if he’s willing to relocate. I feel guilty about leaving my mother and not sure what to do, but losing my dad the way I did made me realize how short life is and I want to be happy. Do I take a risk or live a life of loneliness to keep the peace at home? [read more]

Lovers’ Quarrel

Dear Miss U,
My SO have been together for 4 months now, and we’ve talked about many things. We’ve been happy a lot, but we’ve also argued a lot as well. Is this normal? We point out things that hurt or upset us, and then it starts. We usually have great days, but usually, after the sun goes down, something little sometimes will set one of us off… [read more]