By Sight & Scent

Dear Miss U,
…I’m in college and he is working full time and I had previously said I would come and visit for an extended amount of time over winter break. However, he is struggling severely with money (I’m not doing so well myself, being a college student) and he just started this job, so it would be difficult to get time off to spend with me. I would be stuck spending most of the day at home waiting for him until 8pm. Recently, I told him that I won’t be able to come because I can’t afford it and I would rather wait to spend the money on a ticket when he can get more time off. The problem is he is really upset now… [read more]

What You Want Most

Dear Miss U,
…That being said, as I miss him more he seems to be pushing me away, talking to me less, not making any conversation, and rarely initiating phone calls or any form of contact with me. I like to brush this off as him being busy, but being left to feel lonely and pushed out simply makes me question whether it’s worth putting myself through the emotional trauma I suffered last year. I try to openly communicate with him about this it seems to push him away further… [read more]

Every Day Counts

Dear Miss U,
My boyfriend lives in India and I’m from Slovenia. So when we started dating I asked him if we could Facetime so my parents could meet him. And he refused. He said he isn’t a family person. What can I do about it? And how can I tell my parents that we are dating? I know they won’t approve but I love him so freaking much! [read more]

Outsourcing

Dear Miss U,
…He’s started constantly saying “I want sex” even after we invested in long distance sex toys and have webcam sessions when need be. He says it isn’t enough and he “just needs sex.” I’ve made him aware I would not be okay with him sleeping with other people to get his fix and find it extremely upsetting every time he suggests it… [read more]

No Easy Roads

Dear Miss U,
…We have been doing okay, I’d say, as far as dealing with long distance until recently, when he became super busy with school work. He’s been saying he doesn’t want to break up, but how hard this is and he doesn’t know what to do because he doesn’t have much time for me right now. I don’t want to lose him and he’s the one who convinced me to do long distance, so I’m extremely worried now about our relationship. I don’t know what to do to convince him that we will be okay. I’ve tried to tell him we need to Facetime more but he says he doesn’t have much time and that’s not good for us… [read more]

Good Planning

Dear Miss U,
So I have been chatting online with this guy for a year now I am in the US and he is in the Philippines. I plan to go over in a few months. He seems really nice puts family first, works hard, and tells me he wants to marry. But I told my parents about me visiting and they are like, “No, something could happen to you.” I know I am old enough to go I just want them to be supportive and give him a chance… [read more]

Letters of the Day

Dear Miss U,
I met my boyfriend online but he can never face time or call me because he doesn’t have enough money to keep his phone on. We talk while he’s at work and has wifi but I really want to interact more with him. I don’t want to offend him by saying I don’t believe him because I really don’t know but I’m really struggling to keep a relationship through text… [read more]

Pay Attention to Her

Dear Miss U,
We started dating four months ago, things were great but 2 months ago he left for college and it’s pretty far away. I’ve visited him once for his birthday. I am so happy and proud of him for adjusting and making friends easily and smoothly, but now our relationship is on some sort of schedule and we talk to each other in like 15-minute intervals. He is so busy and I am too but it just feels like he is loving school more than he loves me… [read more]

How to Nurture Yourself

Dear Miss U,
I have been having trouble because I seem to only look forward to the weekends and am only happy on the weekend because I know that’s when I will be seeing my boyfriend. And if there is a conflict and I am not able to see my boyfriend one weekend I get extremely upset and can’t snap out of it and find something else to do to make me happy. It’s like I can’t be happy or do fun things without him, which makes me feel pathetic and dependent… [read more]