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The Military Boyfriend and the College Girlfriend
By Kevin 3/01/2009
Never in my life would I have ever figured that I would be in a long distance relationship. But, you never know what life has in store for you when you least expect it. For the most part, I am completely content with my relationship so far with Maylen. I always tell myself that there will be a day when I come back to see Maylen and actually get to stay with her. It's funny how I first met my girlfriend and believe it or not it was all thanks to a little something called MySpace.
I have a best friend named Angel and we have been friends for the past 11 years (ever since the 5th grade). Heck, I don't even consider him a best friend I consider him as a brother from another mother. We have been through the same elementary and the same middle school together. When high school came around, I moved out of the area but within the same city. So we went to different high schools but we hung around just about every weekend. We always talked about our schooling experience with classes, teachers and other students.
On our senior year of high school, I remembered Angel telling me about a new girl that came into his school named Maylen. She was a new student from Cuba and she didn't know much English. She had trouble with the language when she came into the school. So Angel's girlfriend "Connie" would help Maylen with her English. Now at that time I never knew who Maylen was or how she even looked like physically. But, I would always remember that Angel would tell me some sort of story about her in his school with his girlfriend. Ironically enough Angel himself has told stories about me to Maylen.
Eventually Angel and I graduated from high school and moved on with our lives. I never heard anything about Maylen from that point. From the help of Angel's girlfriend, Angel found the motivation to go to college. As for me I went in the direction of the military because I felt like I wasn't going anywhere with my life. I had no one to push me forward into the path of the college life. So for that reason I decided to enlist in the United States Navy.
I went into boot camp graduated, left for my schooling, and got stationed in Virginia. One day (when I was 7 months in the Navy), I got bored and decided to surf through MySpace. As I was going through Angel's profile, I saw his top friends. Of course, I was on there but there was a specific person that caught my eye on his top friends. So out of curiosity I went to go check out her profile. It came to my attention that this girl's name is Maylen. It rang a bell in my head because this was the same Maylen that my buddy Angel has mentioned to me before. Just by looking at her pictures I thought she was really cute so I sent her the first MySpace message.
She responded back and immediately we began to start a good conversation. At first, we only saw each other of friends because we are good friends with Angel. But, the more messages we sent to each other the more we found out that we had things in common. When I asked for her phone number she didn't hesitate to give it to me. As soon as she gave me her phone number I waited a few days to call her (I didn't want it to seem obvious). When I called her and got to listen to each other voices for the first time, we gained even more interest in each other. We had a strong connection and it came to the point where I expressed my feelings first and told her that I liked her.
At that time, she was confused about it and didn't know how to respond. But, as time passed by, she just couldn't fight with what she felt in her heart. Seven months later, since the time I first spoken to Maylen, I went back home to Florida for vacation. We were both excited because we have been planning on seeing each other for the first time in person. When I saw Maylen in person for the first time, I felt like my dreams came true. All the feelings that we had for each other finally came together. We realized that the friendship we had in the beginning was something even more beyond then that. We had a great time together and even kissed for the first time (I remember because I kissed her after I sang a song in front of her lol). A couple of days passed and we both decided to be in a relationship.
So 7 months later, we are still together and we are still happy to be together. She has started college and I am in my 2nd year of being in the Navy. We both know that even though we are not physically together at this time. We keep in mind that we are both trying to do something with our future. She helps me out a lot mentally and spiritually and I do the same for her. From time to time I kind of wish that I would have met Maylen before. Because I know that Maylen would have been a huge help for me to get into the college life when I had lost motivation to move on with my education. Even though it may seem unfair, you can't argue with what life gives you in your hands.
We both know that the Navy is not forever and there will be a day when I get out. Even for those who stay in for 20 years they too will get out eventually. Thanks to the help of Maylen, she has made me realize how important my education is and when I get out I just want to go straight into my college education. I will just leave everything in God's hands and I will let him decide the best for our relationship. But, I know there is a reason as to why I have met Maylen while I was in the Navy. Rather than meeting her before I joined the Navy.
There is one key important thing that I found out about this relationship. It doesn't matter how far apart you may be from your loved one (close or long distance relationship). You must always maintain great communication at all times and have a sincere and trustworthy relationship.
These are the exact words I told her before: "It doesn't matter what you do in your life. Whether you do something really good or something really bad. Make sure you always tell me the truth with what is going on with your life. It's better to tell the truth rather then to hide it away. Because if I find out that you have been telling me lies, then it will be a lot harder for me to forgive you. Not only that but vice versa, I will make sure to be sincere with you as well."
I hope my story has been informative in some way or another. I know I'm not the only one in the world who is going through the same situation. I wish you all the best of the best in your relationship. Always keep in your mind that as long as you stay dedicated with what you do then nothing is impossible.
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Kevin (half of my heart is back home in Florida) United States Navy Virginia
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