Dear Miss U,
My partner of 3 years announced he would be moving to Croatia from the UK for work (I knew he applied but didn’t think it would happen). We currently live in his house and he will be renting that out (not to myself as it is too big and expensive for myself and daughter -age 13- to live in and run). I will be honest I was angry with him, called him selfish – said he had no consideration for anyone other than himself, I have calmed down now and trying to see things more positive. He knew I wouldn’t be able to come with him as I have my daughter to consider and her education. …It’s OK for him, he is going off, new job, new people whereas I feel I am the one stuck at home picking up the pieces of what will be viewed by many as a failed relationship – I am getting that comment already which hurts. How can I look at things and think it will be OK? How can I make it OK? What do I need to do to be that supportive partner he wants without neglecting my feelings? [read more]
Planning Your LDR
Dear Miss U,
…He is graduating in less than 2 months and even though I always knew he’d leave college 2 years before me, I’m scared of how I’ll manage to survive college hereon. He will be going abroad for further studies and the thought that we’ll be able to meet once a year is fearful… [read more]
Feeling Neglected
Dear Miss U,
Since I came back from my visit in December, the distance has been pretty hard. We even did a break for a week (he came back texting me after 3 days). We had long talks and everything came back kinda like it was. I tried to find every solution to close the gap and ended up thinking about doing my studies there. He was pretty happy about it. But since then, there is something missing between us too. He got a new job, just bought a house. This is a lot of stress for him (I understand that) but I feel like he’s not paying attention to me as he used to. We text but he’s acting more like he’s talking to a friend… [read more]
An Issue of Stagnation
Dear Miss U,
I’ve been in this international LDR for six years,(USA/UAE) we’ve met so it’s not a catfish situation. We’ve had serious conversations about settling down and getting married, having kids and all. But neither of us has made any major moves towards that goal. This year, he’s made some major financial moves to facilitate the marriage process for his sister. But when it comes to us I haven’t seen the same enthusiasm. Am I naive for waiting this long? [read more]
Would he tell you if he cheated?
Dear Miss U,
… Last week, he came here to visit and we took a trip to Amsterdam. The whole time he felt so distant from me and I felt like the romance was lacking. The sex part was fine and we got along like friends but we wouldn’t snuggle or hold hands or kiss and it made me upset. Normally, he is so complimentary and not afraid to be emotional and share how much he loves me but he was not like this at all so I started panicking. I saw him a month previously and he was not like this, so his change in behavior was concerning. [read more]
Breaking Up Is Stupid
Dear Miss U,
My girlfriend keeps on telling me how much she misses me. I, of course, feel the same and reciprocate these messages. But lately, my girlfriend has been saying that how much she misses me and the fact that we can not see each other every day is really getting to her and that she doesn’t want to break up but thinks we should. What do I do? Please help!! [read more]
Your Future Begins Now
Dear Miss U,
I am writing because my boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. I live in the UK and he lives in Poland, he moved mid-2019 and it’s been so difficult ever since. We both want to be together and get married and have a future together, but all he keeps saying is that, “Well you never know what happens in the future.” It makes me feel like that he’s not fighting for me. It may be at least 6 years until he decides if he wants to come back to the UK… [read more]
